The
Difference Between Divine Love and Programmed Love
Hi There Beloveds,
I just went through
some intense feelings of severe confusion to discover this clarity. I am
inspired to write it now because it in still very fresh for me. I know many of
you will resonate with what I am saying.
So I was getting super
confused about what Being In Love really meant. Someone shared with me
yesterday how being in love to him meant loosing his sense of self in another
person. I find this fascinating because Being in love for me is gaining my self
of self with another. To me, all there is that I know from my being, is Love.
Love is our natural state of being and therefore has no association with human
meaning as a concept or programming. Yet, many associate Being In Love with
romantic or programmed actions or feelings and an identification what we think
it is from previous expectations or assumptions. So being in love is not
something you can understand or figure out from our programmed beliefs and
constructs, from our mind. Being in love, is eternal, forever – if it is
coming from Divine Intelligence… something greater than our programmed beliefs
and constructs.
Being in Divine
Love is not conditional… meaning it doesn’t change depending on external
circumstances – it is constant and it cannot be threatened. If someone is
having a bad day.. I don’t love them any less for them having a bad day or if
they lash out at me. I send compassion and love their way.
It is our purpose to
evolve into this Divine Love….We grow and deepen and eventually come to realize
that all there is to come back to is love. Divine love never goes away. This is
how to really experience total acceptance where there is no pain and suffering…
just a state of BEING IN LOVE.
Programmed Love on the
other hand comes and goes.. and pain is then felt from the identification of
this impermanence of such love. Feeling the separation of the lack of love is
not fun. This causes us excruciating pain and suffering in our hearts and
beings – we feel things like.. not feeling wanted, needed, safe… feelings of
rejection surface since we put so much meaning to it these things. Then we shut
down because it feels threatening to keep our hearts open due to the constant
changeability of programmed love.
Divine Love just is.
It is not associated with anything other than Being itself. Being is constant…
it is not changeable.
When we take time to
BE…what is the overall feeling? relaxed right? So when we are relaxed, we are
aligned with Divine Love. When we are upset and triggered we are coming from
programmed love… we go into expectation and assumptions and disappointments and
wounding etc.
Because Divine love
just is….. there is nowhere it isn’t. It is in this sense without meaning. So
there way out of pain and suffering is to let go into the flow and be in the
issues of being… a state that is too vast to be understood by the human mind…
it is only understood by our experience of this now moment. A total full experience
of what is right now, where there is no thought, no judgement, no emotional
suffering – just being.
What will you do…there
are two options.
Accept what is OR
Resist what is. What are you choosing? Today I rode he wave of accepting my
confusion.. it was initially painful and uncomfortable.. then the skies cleared
and I found a deeper understanding. I am so grateful for this discovery.
An Action Step you can
do – Something that will help you be in Divine Love more… is taking consistent
time to go inward and relax into the moment..into just being – come back to
your senses.. how are you feeling.. what are you feeling in your body? does
your body have something to tell you? what are you hearing? Can you feel the
rhythm of your breath? You can go to the beach and use the rhythm of the waves
to bring you into a state of relaxation or put on some relaxing words that
doesn't have words – take 20 to 30 mins of quiet time to JUST BE daily – see
what you discover. What is the essence of you? can you feel it? I would love to
hear your discoveries.
Feel free to email me
at relationshipnavigator@gmail.com
Being In love and
Service with you.
Lucia Nicola
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