What
is Self Responsibility?
Self Responsibility is
the Ultimate Freedom! I challenge you to explore and see for yourself.
Self Responsibility is
the ability to RESPOND to whatever we CHOOSE to respond to. Being self
responsible gives us the ability to choose how we want to respond to any given
person or situation. The POWER OF CHOICE is the key.
What are you choosing
in your life? What are you aware of that you are choosing and what are you
unaware of that is showing up in your life that is demanding your attention?
Take a moment and look closely. Your life is a direct reflection of you. Where
are you taking responsibility in your life? Where are you not taking
responsibility for your life? Where do you need to take more responsibility……
where is there unresolved stuff?
So one of the ways to know
if you are not taking responsibility for your life is if you are blaming,
shaming, judging and criticizing others and yourself. One way to shift
this pattern is to start really monitoring your inner dialogue. What are you
telling yourself? How are you treating yourself? What words are you choosing?
Our words are very
powerful – they create our reality. So we get to choose wisely to what words we
are using since they have energy to them.. each word we choose has a specific
frequency and the word becomes more potent when we align the word up with our
feelings… this is where the true power comes from. When we align our words up
with our feelings, and share what we feel with authenticity, then watch
out…….Notice what happens any how people respond to you as you choose your
words wisely and connect the word with the feeling and share your experience
using I statements… I feel, I notice… I need…I really want…. I am frustrating
myself around……I am triggering myself with…..I just need some down time….I am
really happy since I …….I am so appreciate you for…..etc.
Self Responsible
Guidelines.
1. I seek to
understand others first, especially when there are differences.
2. I am responsible
for how I hold my feelings and perspectives, not anyone else.
3. I understand when
someone is sharing his or her perspective, they are telling me about them NOT
about me, which makes my defensiveness less likely to be activated, so I can
listen with my heart rather than justify why I am right and the other person is
wrong.
4. When someone thinks
and acts a certain way and it makes perfect sense to them, I would very likely
think and act the same way too if I was in their situation.
5. When I feel the
need to fix someone else, instead of using “you should”…… I will choose to
respond by sharing what I notice and how I feel about the situation using words
like I think, I feel.
6. Realizing that I am
not all knowing helps me to stay humble in the way I communicate, which helps
create an atmosphere of openness and co-operation.
7. I speak and listen
from my heart and the deeper knowing of my being.
8. I embrace what is
alive in me. For example, if I am feeling jealousy… I make friends with
jealousy, by having a conversation with it to find out what it needs. I may
draw it out on paper or move jealousy with my body…so it has a way to feel
expressed. This helps me express it vs depress it.
9. I commit to BEING
LOVE, sharing love and receive love. When I am in doubt I ask…What would love
do? and I listen for the answer.
Taking 100%
responsibility for everything we create in our lives can seem like a big deal
and it is. And yet, until we do, we won’t be able to truly change and grow with
power and purpose. We won’t feel unified as equals, safe to truly be ourselves
and liberated as individuals.
Taking a STAND for
being self responsible is the best gift we can give yourselves and the world.
By choosing to respond to our life, taking responsibility for our
thoughts, our feelings and our actions, then we free ourselves of blame and
victimization – this is what true power is, taking full ownership for our part.
Thank you for doing
your part. I appreciate you taking a stand in aligning with your integrity and
purpose and for making a difference in your life. Everyone benefits from you
consciously choosing your words and your life.
Please feel free to
let me know what you notice while putting your awareness to practice.
In Loving Service to
you,
Lucia Nicola Evans
“Be the Change you
want to SEE in the world” Gandhi.
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